Nancy Drew,
After finally breaking away from the JWs, I went through a period (which lasted for quite a number of years) in which " if I felt it, I said it " - and in no uncertain terms! ( e.g. liberally using all the "F" and "B" Words anywhere and at any time, making rude gestures at other drivers when they either did something wrong or otherwise just annoyed me, etc. etc. etc.).
At the time, I thought that this was being therapeutic; i.e. a way of releasing frustration after having been repressed for too long. Now I am more inclined to believe it was part of the process of learning. Learning how to "hit the happy medium" in dealing with the real world (rather than a make believe world).
These days, I try to state my opinions in a respectful manner, particularly when disagreeing with another.
One definition of the art of diplomacy reads as follows:
The ability to tell someone to "Go To Hell" in such a manner that they actually look forward to the journey!
This is the knack that I am working on!